1. Let’s get all the gunk out of our system. Then look at them. Bless them and let them go. This will bring us tremendous relief.
2. Beware when we are about to quit. Let’s make sure that we are not quitting when the gem we are looking for is almost at hand. Maybe, all we need is a little more patience, with a little more work.
Dr. Beth feels that the end is coming close. Thus, anxieties and stresses caused by the process she is going through come much too often for her to handle. She is blessed to have the tools to help her during the anxious and stressful moments. Thus, she has decided to focus on the ending process–with all its pain and glory. She is determined to release all the gunk out of her system, which are still there. From her studies and work/mission, she has learned this: Get it out. Look at it. Release it, and bless it. Let it go.
All of us humans have the basic need for love: to love and be loved. Thus, we keep going through the process of falling in love again and again, despite the pain that “love endings” bring. So why do some of us miss out on this opportunity of a lifetime–that of loving and being loved in return–truly and sincerely? When will some of us ever learn that in spite of our strong protestations about needing a special someone in our lives, saying that we can do live alone contented and self sufficient, the need is still very much alive in us? There is no escaping away from this fact. The need for love is a part of our DNA!
Because of the difficulty of dealing with her partner after the latter’s illness, she (whom we will call Lei) decides to go on a scheduled trip. During such absence on her part, she resolves to stay in the relationship, to be extra nice to him, to take care of him during his vulnerable times. She sees all the good in the marriage as she makes all kinds of positive resolutions. She realizes that despite their arguments in the past, they are still together because they talk things out. No third party comes in the picture to muddle the issues they are working on. With all these beautiful thoughts, she goes back; only to find a divorce waiting for her. What a bummer! A third party (whom we will call Jan) is in the picture! Jan tells Lei that somebody will help Lei pack her things, bring her and her things to where she needs to go. The next day, Jan leaves a message in Lei’s cell phone, telling the latter to be an adult, pack her things, and leave. Lei still tries to talk things over her partner, doing niceties to please him. However, she finds the doors closed for some of these niceties. One day, he tells her that he is uncomfortable in Lei’s being around.
When they sit to talk again, she breaks down. Life becomes too much, and she wants to end it. Alarmed, Lei’s partner calls her sister. Her sister comes to pick her up, to save her from the harm that the situation is causing her.
So what is the opportunity of a lifetime that is missed here? A great love that wants to be born and nurtured again. At the start, it was soul satisfying. It can be done again, with both parties’ cooperation.
Ah, sometimes we are so close to finding the gem in our lives that we have been looking and longing for, only to stop looking and longing–and doing something about it– when it is almost at hand. This brings to the author’s mind the story about acres of diamond. A farmer starts digging–and keeps digging–hoping to find the diamonds (or something precious). However, he stops when he is almost there. In his frustrations, he sells the farm. The person who buys the land continues digging and finds the diamonds (or the precious item) short distance away from the spot that the farmer stopped digging.
Oh! Isn’t that a sad commentary for some of us? That we stop when we are almost there? When we leave, somebody benefits from our past efforts because whatever we are looking for is near the spot where we stopped.