Lighted Candle for J's Glorious Future
Lesson: Let us take time to honor a loved one. The time we spend in doing so results in tremendous rewards not only for the recipient but to also for us.
Such honor can be done through a letter, an example of which is shown below.
I have been wanting to write to you since you turned 14. Now that I am about to leave for a prolonged absence, I need to sit down and share with you my thoughts about you. For ease of reading, let me just list below these ideas that have been percolating in my mind.
1. Your Greatness and Wonder
Before you were born, I saw your mom’s stomach big with you in it. Then you got out of the confinement of that environment. You were born. I was newly married to “that guy,” so I felt that you are also my baby. What a cute and happy baby you were! And smart at a very young age. Your mother introduced you to many things, which I believe help you develop and mature faster than those in your age group. You knew the alphabet when you were three years old. (I do not know the exact age that you did this, but I know that you were very young then.) During those baby years, people (especially me) derived tremendous pleasure in seeing you and talking to you. By the way, during those years, your mom had very good income coming in, so there were always parties in your behalf, especially on your birthdays. Your mom left no stone unturned to make this enjoyable for you and everyone present.
Through the years, I made it a point to visit you when I could.
When you were in grade school, I was your guest during the awards ceremony for bright kids. You were one of the awardees. Someone asked you as to why you were very smart. Your reply was that you were surrounded by smart women.
And you are still as bright as ever. And multi-talented at that. Helpful and considerate also. God has blessed you with looks, brains, and character. Please value these gifts and share them with those around you.
Sure, you have your faults; but once you are aware of them, you put into action steps that will help you correct them. Like the procrastination that you were working on. This is admirable: that you have the wisdom and awareness to take it upon yourself to lessen, if not altogether eliminate, this flaw.
2. Your Assets
As mentioned above, you have those attributes and much more:
- Intelligent—Now that A’s are common occurrence for you, you are now on getting A+’s.
- Multi-talented: singing, writing, acting, and dancing
- Kind, considerate, and helpful—You are always like this with me whenever I stay with you.
- Efficient—You do not do a haphazard work. When you do something, you do it at your best—whether it be cleaning or doing a project for your studies.
- Aware—Most often, you are aware of what or where you can do better.
3. What You can Improve on:
I know that you are aware of what you can improve on, but let me add my ideas:
- Helping around the house without anybody asking you to help.
- Disciplining yourself to do your homework first before watching your favorite show or playing your game. This will solve many of your challenges, especially lack of sleep and waking up at the right time, with enough minutes for you to have breakfast before going to school.
- On a regular basis, going to bed on time. I suggest that you have 10 hours of sleep, at least. Your body is still growing, and it needs enough time for the growing process to complete itself until you become an adult.
- Setting aside regular times for prayers and meditation. One time, you told me that you know the importance of prayers.
- Few times a month—if not every Sunday–attending a worship service in a church. People in churches you attend can be sources of support for you during the happy and rough times.
- Opening a bank account in your name. Making deposits on a regular basis.
- Down the line, asking your mom to help you invest the money. At your age, this is very beneficial. Time is on your side and to your advantage. It will teach you to be frugal or thrifty. You will learn not to buy things that you do not really need. This will leave you with money for your savings.
- Being aware that your body is straight, either sitting down or standing up. In other words, do not slouch. A good posture is a must for your health.
- Being aware—always—that you are a child of God and that you are wonderful just the way you are.
Affirmations you can make use of:
When you doubt your worth: “I am a wonderful child of a loving God.“ “I am “God’s beloved in whom He is well pleased.”
- When you are feeling insecure and afraid: “Nothing but good can come to me. Nothing but good can come from me.”
These are merely examples of affirmation that can counteract any negative thought or negative feeling that you may be having at any given time.
J__, do you know that I am the one who started calling you with this nickname? Because in my eyes, you are truly a gem. I know that you will live up to such a wonderful nickname.
Please know that I am always around for you to share with or email to or talk withybe, through Skype).
I love you and pray for the realization of the exciting life that is waiting to unfold for you.
Incidentally, the young man being honored here is the one singing in the featured video in this site. Please check it out! You will be pleasantly surprised.